Fear is a normal response for the human animal and intricately involved with our survival mechanism. But we sometimes need help in overcoming fears which serve no useful purpose.
Overcoming fears and phobias without help can sometimes be enormously difficult but the good news is that most fear-based symptoms can be alleviated easily with modern therapies
A lot of the time, fear is actually a conditioned response, which means that it has in some way been learnt via a repeated circumstance. The fear of spiders is a common example. There is rarely any deep psychological reason for it but there is usually a parent, parent-figure, or some other ‘influential’ individual who exhibited a profound fear reaction in the presence of the insect. When a child observes an adult repeatedly exhibiting ‘survival responses’ in the shape of screaming or jumping up onto chairs, the youngster can do little other than interpret the fear-object – in this case, a spider – as being extremely dangerous. And the younger the child is when he or she observes this behaviour, the ‘deeper’ the fear will appear to be; it is almost inevitable that he or she will adopt the ‘coping behaviour’ that has been observed an understood as being necessary for survival.
This does not mean the fear is not real; it simply means that there is no sound reason for its existence and it can often be dealt with far more easily than most people might imagine – often just a single session will result in a complete alleviation of symptoms. Although it might seem impossible to believe, we are saying here that overcoming fears is something that can be achieved very easily.
It’s not always like that, though; sometimes, an individual feels fearful most of the time, for no reason that he or she can articulate. This can also be a conditioned response, if one or both parents were naturally fearful, although it sometimes appears to be ‘hard-wired’, a natural way of being for the individual concerned.
Where the fear is of a known circumstance, then telephone work or E-therapy can be enormously effective.
If it is a feeling of fear that ‘flares up’, then that is more like a panic attack and needs a different approach.
If it seems to be a ‘way of life’ then telephone therapy or (preferably) face-to-face work can make considerable improvement.
Another ‘face’ of fear
Another form of fear is Anxiety; indeed, as already mentioned, it has often been described as ‘fear spread thinly. There are a great many possible roots for the sources of anxiety and anxiety attacks and a full medical investigation should be conducted before beginning any form of complementary therapy. When there is no apparent medical cause for the anxiety symptoms, the problem can usually be greatly relieved by modern drug-free therapies, though the style that you would need is not easy to forecast without conversation. Here are a few examples, though:
These can often be dealt with by ‘E-therapy’ or telephone work:
Mild anxiety and worry on a day-to-day basis that seldom causes you to feel ill enough that you cannot function is more often than not linked to self worth or personal confidence issues, or poor self belief. 2 – 3 sessions can often be sufficient.
Anxiety attacks in certain circumstances only can often be dealt with in only 1 or 2 sessions. Where the circumstance that triggers the anxiety is unavoidable, this therapy can change your life!
Anxiety around a certain individual can be relieved effectively, though to avoid continual reoccurrence, you may also need help to resolve the difficulties within the situation that exists between you and the other individual. This can quite often be achieved by Telephone work, though sometimes face-to-face work is needed as well.
The following anxiety symptoms may need more ‘in depth’ work:
Anxiety that leaves you feeling ill a lot of the time can be helped enormously with the right sort of therapy. It is probably beyond the scope of E-therapy, though telephone consultation can be helpful.
Continual anxiety that stops you doing things really needs face-to-face sessions with a competent therapist, though telephone work will make it easier for you to contemplate this.
Random anxiety attacks need some sort of investigative therapy, as a rule, to help you discover the reason for the attacks – in the absence of a medical condition, there will definitely be a cause. This is not generally suitable for E-therapy or for telephone work.
Phobia and the Phobic Response pattern
Probably the most profound of all fear and anxiety symptoms is the Phobic Response. Having said that, it is a fact that many phobias can respond readily to a variety of therapies, even where they may have been causing severe disruption to an individual’s life for many years.
There are many successful treatments for phobias, including conventional medication, herbal remedies, psychotherapy, hypnotherapy, EFT, TFT and NLP (you can find out more about these therapies elsewhere in the site). Sometimes, profound results can be achieved in just one session, even where the phobia has been entrenched for many years and having a far-reaching effect on an individual’s life. Sometimes it can take a few sessions but it is rare indeed that some beneficial change cannot be made.
It is not an unusual situation that a phobia is not actually a phobia at all, but instead is a severe fear. The distinction is important, for severe fear – which will feel and ‘behave’ just like a phobia – is far more easy to deal with and can often be resolved in one or two E-therapy sessions or telephone work, by a variety of methods.
Here’s a ‘rough and ready’ way to tell the difference. Think about ‘your’ phobia for a moment; then see how much would you have to be paid to voluntarily encounter the phobic object/situation – think carefully about the amount of money we are talking about here:
6. No amount of money would be enough?
If you answered ‘yes’ to possibility number 6, then you probably DO have a phobia. If you answered ‘yes’ to any of the amounts of money, then you probably have a fear, the severity of which can be judged by the amount you would have to be paid. Of course, some people are not tempted hugely by money, when this test ‘falls down’ but you get the idea. In general, if there is anything that could persuade you to ‘face’ the phobia, then you are likely to be able to set yourself free from it far more readily than otherwise.
If you have a phobia or a ‘£10,000,000′ fear, then face-to-face work is indicated; otherwise, it is likely that telephone work or ‘E therapy’ will be effective. It is impossible to accurately predict the number of sessions here, although improvement would normally felt quite early on.
There is another possibility, though… some apparent phobias (especially Emetophobia – the fear of vomit and vomiting) are actually symptoms of obsessive compulsive disorder and without doubt need face-to-face therapy if effective relief is to be found. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy can be immensely successful here.
How can I tell? Well, again, here is a rough and ready guide. Generally speaking, the phobic response is only fully triggered in the presence of the phobic situation or object; thinking about it might cause unease but no intolerable discomfort. With obsession, however, the situation is different, in that the individual will continually check, throughout waking hours, to see if the phobic situation or trigger present. This continual checking usually leads to a conviction that it IS present and the phobic response ensues. Hence the sufferer of Emetophobia checks how he she feels immediately upon waking and at frequent intervals throughout the day, especially after eating or drinking anything. Most days, there will be at least one surge of anxiety, and probably more, when this ‘testing’ engenders nausea.
Obsession is not treatable in the long term by telephone or E-therapy (though symptoms may be eased temporarily) and requires a fairly lengthy series of face-to-face sessions with a qualified Cognitive Behavioural Therapist. Although considered a ‘brief therapy’ it can still be of many sessions duration.
Nobody should ever have to ‘just put up with it’ as far as anything in this article is concerned; if you wish, please contact us for our professional advice on how best to find competent and effective help.
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